What if the straining that you are been experiencing is due to a lack of boundaries? What if many of your mental health has not been in the best state due to a boundary deficiency?
BOUNDARY DEFICIENCY
Some of the most effective I people know have reached where they are because of their incredible ability to enforce boundaries. Boundaries is the process of setting the necessary limits in your life to ensure that your values are guarded.
We need to celebrate boundaries. When someone is setting the proper boundaries in their lives it ought to be something that we welcome. The truth is, we all have limits. If we live life without boundaries we will reach those limits by force. And by that point, we are way beyond setting them in a gentle way. Boundaries help you say “No” with a smile on your face because you know that saying “No” to something is a result of saying “Yes” to something else.
I have lost several close friendships due to a lack of boundaries. And I have learned from these circumstances to ensure that I am properly cultivating the healthy relationships that I still have. I am still growing in this area though. There is this lie in my head that causes me to believe that my loyalties are tied to my yes. This then pulls me beyond my emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual limits. Then I began to develop resentment towards something or someone, not realizing the person I should be confronting is myself for not having the proper boundaries.
So I have decided from here on out, I am drawing a line and it’s ok.
Take a listen to a song I wrote with a good friend of mine Konata Small, as we musically convey the anthem of “setting boundaries.”
How will you draw a line in this next season?
Check out the song